I was programmed to be strong and unstoppable, to always do my best—sometimes, at any cost.
For years I was known for saying yes when I meant no. I would be so insistent on keeping my promises that I wouldn’t back out of plans, no matter what.
I’ll get that massage when I have more time, I’d say.
I’ll take that vacation when I have more money.
I didn’t understand that the pressure I was putting on myself wasn’t helping anyone, and was hurting me.
This pattern kept me from indulging in self-care—something I have come to understand is a learned skill.